tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2414226327667729346.post260170660400037659..comments2023-08-10T04:06:58.982-07:00Comments on Breaking The Silence: Willing to Submit to All Things the Lord Seeth Fit to Inflict Upon You...Julie Toonehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14175618637772132446noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2414226327667729346.post-81704770407142009332014-05-09T16:18:27.911-07:002014-05-09T16:18:27.911-07:00Suz,
Thank you so much for this message! I am so...Suz, <br />Thank you so much for this message! I am so glad it helped, and I appreciate what you said. It was hard to get negative feedback, but I felt strongly that there were women out there that needed to know they are not alone and there is hope. I am going to send you an email to the email listed on your profile. If that isn't the right email anymore send me your new one!Julie Toonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14175618637772132446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2414226327667729346.post-87182530245450436022014-05-09T15:46:51.272-07:002014-05-09T15:46:51.272-07:00I thank you so much for sharing this. I am also a ...I thank you so much for sharing this. I am also a remarried widow. We will (hopefully) celebrate our first anniversary in a few months. The past eight months have been harder than losing my first husband. I've been trying so hard to just even make it through the first year, my bags have been packed and unpacked. Sigh. So much of your story parallels my own story. I wish that we would have gotten help sooner and fear that it might be too late for us, but feel as you did. That I KNOW there was purpose to us being together. I've also felt that there has been purpose to our struggle and that it is perhaps to lay a strong foundation for our relationship. Lately that is all I have. I cried through your entire post. Thank you for sharing, for being true and vulnerable, for not sugar coating nor pretending that all has always been well to please those who judge, thank you lastly and mostly for giving this widow hope and a little vision of what is possible. <3Suzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07626275990935805736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2414226327667729346.post-54946435945499305322014-04-29T17:24:50.558-07:002014-04-29T17:24:50.558-07:00Well said Julie (and Curtis)! Thank you for being...Well said Julie (and Curtis)! Thank you for being open and sharing the realities of new marriages and blending families. I read a couple of the previous comments about this post. I do not agree that your husband was “publicly humiliated”. I also do not agree that this post should be taken down. I believe there are many who will read this and see what the true message is. It is not about humiliating anyone. It is about the fact you worked through your issues and are very happily married now. It is about not giving up. It is about working through your struggles with the help of God. It is about hope! <br /><br />While you pointed out Curtis’s tendency to be selfish, you also took responsibility for your behavior. You said, “I contributed to many of our marital struggles in the beginning as well. I have had to work hard to change my weakness' to become a better person and more loving wife. I thank Curtis for accepting me with all my faults, and helping me to become the woman that Heavenly Father wants me to be. Marriages are hard work for a lot of different reasons.” <br /><br />This post will give many hope. It can help them see that change is possible! It sounds like to me that Curtis is proud of his accomplishment of becoming an amazing man…what is humiliating about that? We all have faults and isn’t it great when we can see we are making progress!<br />Sandra Winchesterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13373032682634566421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2414226327667729346.post-44692302386911542102014-04-29T15:27:08.811-07:002014-04-29T15:27:08.811-07:00This is so interesting to me being a widow as well...This is so interesting to me being a widow as well. I started off with the idea that I would marry someone just as awesome as my first husband. I didn't want any trouble or baggage. I was looking for the 'perfect life' that I thought God owed me. As I have dated.. new impressions have come to my mind. I have realized that I need growth and growth often requires you to do hard things. I have felt that helping someone to become a better person by learning to unconditionally love them would be a very worthwhile goal. I realized that no matter what happens, I still have my first husband who loves and adores me. I have thought... with that behind me I can do hard things. I actually just wrote a blog on my dating experience... This is the second part of it... <br /><br />Lessons Learned in Helping Others: Change takes time <br />http://not4naught.blogspot.com/2014/04/lessons-learned-in-helping-others_29.htmlVeronica Clarkehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15785962978284238696noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2414226327667729346.post-37332594899955013502014-04-29T13:30:27.720-07:002014-04-29T13:30:27.720-07:00If I had asked Julie not to post about this subjec...If I had asked Julie not to post about this subject, I'm sure she would have respected my wishes. We all have things we can improve upon. I hope this inspires you to improve your marriage as we all can make them better.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2414226327667729346.post-31962220992326490112014-04-29T13:02:31.094-07:002014-04-29T13:02:31.094-07:00Kudos to you and your husband for being VULNERABLE...Kudos to you and your husband for being VULNERABLE? Authenticity is the new black! Love the post! I live in a place where I have to be vulnerable every single day! It's time to take off the mask and be REAL!!! :)boytrapped4https://www.blogger.com/profile/17893033095033742670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2414226327667729346.post-76078986153056420742014-04-29T11:27:25.142-07:002014-04-29T11:27:25.142-07:00I'm Curtis Toone and I approve this message. :...I'm Curtis Toone and I approve this message. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2414226327667729346.post-73435774273001749342014-04-29T10:50:49.311-07:002014-04-29T10:50:49.311-07:00Curtis helped me write this post. It is not meant...Curtis helped me write this post. It is not meant to humiliate him at all. It is meant to show we are all human and marriages can be hard. A lot of marriages are failing because of the lack of people being willing to change and forgive. We are only trying to help by showing that marriages are hard...but are totally worth it! Even in the hardest situations you can have a happy thriving marriage.Julie Toonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14175618637772132446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2414226327667729346.post-47384621758941478852014-04-29T10:46:28.641-07:002014-04-29T10:46:28.641-07:00I can totally see that point of view, if I were po...I can totally see that point of view, if I were posting this without Curtis' knowledge and support. I am constantly in awe of Curtis for his willingness to let others see not only our triumphs but our struggles as well. This post is meant to help people find peace and inspiration that marriages are worth fighting for.Julie Toonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14175618637772132446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2414226327667729346.post-90288217289806708832014-04-29T10:14:10.799-07:002014-04-29T10:14:10.799-07:00Your husband shouldn't have to "let you p...Your husband shouldn't have to "let you post" this article about him.. As a wife, you shouldn't make him pick whether or not to be publicly humiliated. Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10204711997696779331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2414226327667729346.post-61666987484476314162014-04-29T10:03:37.699-07:002014-04-29T10:03:37.699-07:00^^^ Sadly, I agree with the above comment.. That w...^^^ Sadly, I agree with the above comment.. That was a little uncomfortable to read. :( Laurenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17022121499094062760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2414226327667729346.post-35883452036180515542014-04-29T09:56:46.932-07:002014-04-29T09:56:46.932-07:00Julie, I usually love reading your blog for the ho...Julie, I usually love reading your blog for the hope and inspiration it gives us all. Although, this is crossing a very private boundary line. I would consider taking this down my dear. Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10204711997696779331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2414226327667729346.post-48816340187446735472014-04-29T07:36:56.917-07:002014-04-29T07:36:56.917-07:00Great job Julie! Very tender mercies in this. Great job Julie! Very tender mercies in this. Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10304188308575038496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2414226327667729346.post-5647315967109363372014-04-29T06:34:27.702-07:002014-04-29T06:34:27.702-07:00Thank you for being so willing to expose your hard...Thank you for being so willing to expose your hardships. Sharing your struggles will definitely help others and give them hope.Kristihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00655295359969245767noreply@blogger.com